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A whole issue of Beacon Lights devoted to marriage?
Yes.
It does not matter how young or old you are. It does not matter what stage of life you are in. It does not matter if you are married or not. Reading about marriage is timely for anyone, anytime.
If you are unsure about the truthfulness of what was said above, you might identify with one of following statements. These statements are really four lines of reasoning that reveal why you might not know enough about marriage.
“I’m only thirteen years old. Do I really need to read about marriage?”
You are entering a phase in your life when Satan relentlessly assaults you with the philosophy of the world that tells you to live as you please. He despises the message of Scripture that marriage is a picture of the relationship of Christ and his Church. He laughs at the message of Scripture that the marriage relationship is one of self-sacrifice. He scoffs at the message of Scripture that sex is for marriage. He is throwing every temptation of the world at you in order to get you to live as you please in selfishness and lust, right now and in a future marriage. He knows that you are in your formative years and he wants to fill your brain with his falsehood before you seriously begin to consider dating and marriage.
“I’m just dating right now. I don’t need to think about marriage yet.”
Clearly you did not read last month’s issue. Marriage is always connected to dating. Dating is to be used to help you figure out if the person you are with would make a godly spouse. You also might be thinking that when you become engaged, you and your future spouse will go through marriage counseling with your pastor. He will tell you what marriage is all about, so you should be all set. Express this thought to your pastor and he will tell you that he is still learning about marriage and will continue to do so for the rest of his life.
“I am a single young or old adult. I have tried dating several times, but I am just not interested, or I haven’t found the right person.”
You don’t know what God has in store for you. Maybe he will have you wait for marriage until you are in your thirties or forties. Even if you never marry, instruction regarding marriage is good for you because you are surrounded by brothers and sisters in the Church who are married. They will have struggles that you will not experience. How will you help them?
“I have been married [or was married] for thirty or more years. I know everything there is to know about marriage.”
No, you don’t.