The first day of high school is always difficult. This is because you do not know that many people and those that were in your class before are probably not in all of your new classes. By the end of the first week you know the names of everyone in your classes and you have started to form a new group of friends.

I have always found it puzzling how people pick their friends. A lot of it has to do with having the same interests, hobbies, and having personalities that “click” together. Another way to pick a good friend is by the way they talk, act, and even in what they do.

There is a lot more to a good friendship than just having someone to talk to about what is going on at school or at home. Being a good friend means that you must be willing to give as well as receive. You have to be there with a strong shoulder to lean on whenever your friend needs it. You must take the time to really listen to them when they talk. Some of the not so pleasant aspects of being a good friend are also very important. Sticking up for a friend when others are cutting them down is a definite must. Also, we must always direct our friends in the proper paths of young Christians no matter how hard it may be or how much they do not want to listen.

There are many people out there who pretend that they are your friends to get things that you have or to hang around with the group that you do. Another thing to watch out for in false friends is backbiting because it really hurts when people are nice to your face but rip you apart to others. Also false friends tend to blab secrets that you told them in confidence without so much as a blink. Unfortunately, there are always more false friends than there are true friends.

A good friend can tell you when to keep quiet, when your hair looks bad, or when your outfit does not match. A true friend can be honest with you and has the faith that you will always do the same.

Our lives would be very boring if we did not have any friends. What would we do on the weekends? Whom would you call or talk to or tell when the guy/girl you like asks you out? In whom would you confide in when something goes wrong? In the hustle of everyday life we tend to forget that there is more to having friends than sharing lockers. Friendship is a relationship built on trust and the faith that each one is always looking out for the others. Always remember that in order to have a good friend, you must be a good Christian friend. ❖


Kate is a student at Covenant Christian High School in Grand Rapids, Michigan.