Confronting a sinning friend can be very tough in some cases. If it is not dealt with properly, you risk losing that friend. If you are a true friend, there are biblical ways in which you can solve the problem and save the friendship.
There are two things which should be pointed out. First, if you know that your friend is sinning you must try to keep it between you and your friend. Do not go too fast or you could ruin the friendship, but also don’t go too slow because then nothing will get accomplished.
No matter what the problem, true friends help each other. The first step in helping your friend is to talk to him one on one. Show him that you are on his or her side, and that you are there to help, no matter what the cost. Doing this will convince your friend that you only want what is best for him and he will be more open to listen to what you say.
Often times a problem is too big to be solved by you alone. If so, you could go the second step in helping your friend. This step involves telling another close friend about the sin. Getting another friend involved will help only if that friend can be trusted not to gossip.
In some cases, the situation will get too complicated and you will need to consult someone who knows your friend even better than you, like his or her parents. Usually parents will have more influence on their child than you do, and the process of trying to help your friend will be easier.
If parents are unable or perhaps unwilling to help, and the friend continues in his sin, then it is time to bring the matter to the consistory. This is especially true if the sin is affecting the church life of your friend.
In all such trials and difficulties you must always remember to pray to God. Pray for your sinning friend. Pray that God will be with him, and help him to abstain from and overcome his sin. Pray also that God will help you as you help your friend. ❖
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Mike is a student at Covenant Christian High School in Grand Rapids, Michigan.